a close friend of mine has sexual issues with his girlfriend. he loves her but doesn't seem to be attracted in a sexual way anymore.
He is already counseling a therapist but i would like to know if i could help with QT.
Where should i send the energy? In the base-chakra maybe? i would do that via distant healing with his permission.

Thanks in advance for your answers!

Sex isn't all about the genital area. I'd do an entire 7-chakra balancing with maybe a bit more emphasis on the head, the throat, the heart, and genitals. Hmmmm, that's most of them and I'm thinking the others need emphasis as well.... On second thought, balance them all with extra focus on those that you intuit need it most at the time.

Hello Scorpio,

I just made a post on on the other discussion that's currently going on about sex, which might be relevant to you. Here's another site which attempts to explain why sexual attraction in a relationship falls away, and what can be done about it:

http://www.reuniting.info/

Richard

Hi Scorpio,

Another idea is, he might have some kind of anxiety, and it might or might not have anything to do with his girlfriend.

I would suggest putting your hands on each side of his head, and run the energy for a while, and see what happens.

I worked with my mom about two years ago, she had a stroke, and had trouble bringing words out. I did not notice anything until the next morning. I had asked how she was, and she started talking and everything was coming out as if she did not have the stroke. It did not stay that way, but looking back now, I should have done it a few more times, so that it would have had a lasting effect.

Namaste, Dennis

thanks for your replies!
cris, i will have a deeper look for the meaning and background of chakras.

corlett,
i check out that page ! thanks!

I would ask him how does it make him feel that he's not sexually attracted to her anymore? And then he'll say something negative like worry or guilt or anger or indifference, etc. Ask him to think about the situation for a moment, and ask him where does he feel the feeling in his body? It could be in his heart, throat, gut, etc. Definitely work on that area and as you are getting amped up, ask him question in regards to the situation so he talks about it more, or at least gets him thinking about the situation. As this is happening, ask him if he feels any tension or sensations in his body so you can move your hands accordingly and chase like that.

@Antranik:
he says he lacks the whole range of emotions, meaning he says that he feels " nothing " at all.
nothing bad, nothing good.

Maybe it's more than just sexual... maybe he's not attracted to her girlfriend at all anymore? Maybe the relationship is such that they are causing each others feelings to be suffocated? Maybe they are not free to be themselves anymore, because one is always trying to control the other. Maybe the guy succumbs every time, and overtime he's become completely desensitized his world around him. Guys can become dead on the inside (dead feelings) if they lose their independence and become somebody's bitch. But of course, this is all wild speculation, there could be a million other reasons. What do you think it is, since you are an outsider so to speak and has seen how the relationship specifically has changed his life?

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Maybe it's more than just sexual... maybe he's not attracted to her girlfriend at all anymore? Maybe the relationship is such that they are causing each others feelings to be suffocated? Maybe they are not free to be themselves anymore, because one is always trying to control the other. Maybe the guy succumbs every time, and overtime he's become completely desensitized his world around him. Guys can become dead on the inside (dead feelings) if they lose their independence and become somebody's bitch. But of course, this is all wild speculation, there could be a million other reasons. What do you think it is, since you are an outsider so to speak and has seen how the relationship specifically has changed his life?

they are together since years.
he came from canada to florida and she gave everything she had up in canada to move with him to FL.
thats why can't just kick her out. he has a huge feeling of responsibility.
on the other hand, she doesn't dress very nice, has gained quite some weight (thats at least what he told me, i just know them since a year)
you're right, maybe its totally unrelated to problems on his side, maybe the relationship is dead. i think they still love each other but it looks to much like routine to me.

I would suggest you send energy into his heart while he considers his situation.

You can then let nature take its course knowing that you've offered energy and balance to the situation.

You don't need to resolve it yourself, trust in the process and let the energy do the work.

That is my suggestion.

I was wondering Alain if a psoas release might be in order also? I was taught that we store some of our male and female issues there....

I've never heard that about the psoas but more things on heaven and earth.

From the discussion so far it sounds like a relationship that may have run its course rather than a "sexual" issue.

While sending to the psoas may be of use regardless, it sounds to me like the person in question needs to make some decisions about their life more than anything else.

The Psoas or Ilio-psoas can be a kind of dumping ground for lots of emotional issues just because it is a deep abdominal muscle.

It also connects the top half of the body with the bottom half of the body around the pelvic area attaching at the lesser trochanter.

You need to be very careful how you approach this area and possibly more areas of the body need to be worked on before going here. However, when I had my psoas worked on, I found it to be a very deep and healing experience for me. I went through the ten sessions of Hellerwork with the psoas work being on session 5 with the rest of the belly.

I had both a physical reaction with return of old stomach problems and an emotional reaction, both of which lasted for about 2 weeks. I felt a lot better afterwards though and had grown at least an inch in height.

In what way do you need to be "careful" about approaching the psoas for release?

In the modality I learned before QT (from the same source as QT) we did the psoas release, but it was much more invasive, so I prefer the QT method. One thing I have learned and strongly advise doing; is that taking a Clorox (brand only) or epsom salts bath after any energy work, especially the psoas work, as it helps to pull out the toxins released during the work. This reduces some or all of the reactions you describe CT. The Clorox bath is followed by a shower of course and it does not seem to harm or dry out the skin as one would think.... many cannot bring themselves to do that, so empsom salts is the next best thing. The water is usually very gray or blackish after the clorox bath. It's pretty amazing.

The reason you need to be careful about the psoas is that it is in the belly, which is obviously a very sensitive area for a lot of people. The belly is where people hold emotions and going into this area without the utmost sensitivity can set off reactions for people. As I said before, the psoas can be a dumping ground for lots of emotions in people, especially being such a deep abdominal muscle.

As a bodyworker, I know that the belly can be a sensitive area and can bring up a lot of stored emotions, as I have found with my work as a Maya Abdominal Massage practitioner.

You just need to approach with care and be sensitive, but once you do the psoas release people normally feel the benefit readily.