I just read a blog that I thought was very interesting concerning weight gain. It stated that empaths (which I would guess the majority of us that do QT are) have a tendency to gain weight, not from thier own emotional issued but those they continually take on from others

http://www.clearreflectioncoaching.com/blog/?p=31

This is definitely worth checking out

I have heard of this before.... and feel that there is some validity to to weight gain and being an empath. I know part of my issue is grounding as well..... The information about needing to use our legs more rings really true for me. I think I need to start walking!!!

Thanks for sharing the site.

Brenda

My2Hearts,
That is not only true, but is also a factor in wiccan circles. One never uses either, so goes the legend, a skinny witch, (Elvira isnt a real witch, so doesn't coutnt!LOL) Most good empaths, no matter how much weight they carry, are the ones to seek out. The skinny seers, empaths, witches, healers, are those that are either false, or not long working in the business end of our calling.
A very good white witch will carry a great deal of emotional weight. A black witch will most usually be underweight.
Same with all the modalities.
At times, I am glad I am fat. At working times, anyway.
Oh, another point: when working steadily at whatever modality, it is derned near impossible to shed the weight. The entire matter comes down to what is more important to you: svelte, lithe lousy worker, or fat wrinkled empathic worker. The better you are the fatter you will be. or the longer you have worked onthe white side.
Alain is the one to break all the rules.
He is skinny as a floor lamp, and a very good person and healer. His wife, Jody, is just right.
AS you can see, there are exceptions to all rules.

Obviously there are choices to be made, if you can do so.

zeneagle (burp)

Those are very good points and thinking about it I can see that this seems to be the rule. I have found some relief though in the technique of shielding. I use it now when I am in a place such as Wal-Mart or other places where there are a lot of people. I am new to that and I hope it does not hurt my empathy when I want to feel it but it makes it so much easier to go into crowded places. I also use it at work and believe it or not I no longer feel the need to have something in my mouth the entire 8 hours. As for the grounding. That is also something I have begun to do faithfully. Thank you both for the insights.

Are any of you familiar with the work of Louise Hay? In her book, 'you can heal your life' she gives the emotional causes of physical illnesses. I am training in 'Block Clearance Therapy' (www.blockclearance.com) and we also use the interpretation of illness and injury in this work (although the affirmations we use are different).

Anyway, the emotional cause of being 'fat' is:

"Oversensitivity. Often represents fear and shows a need for protection. Fear may be a cover for hidden anger and a resistence to forgive.

- Arms: anger at being denied love
-Belly: anger at being denied nourishment
-Hips: Lumps of stubborn anger at the parents
-Thighs: packed childhood anger. Often rage at the father."

I know some 'healers' don't feel the need to protect themselves (psycically, eg with a bubble around you) but perhaps if weight is a problem for you it might be something to try (we do become more 'open' doing this work after all).

I can recommend the following affirmation for protecting your energy field:

"I am now safe, secure, protected, and supported by my light at all times."
(11 repetitions per day for a period of 42- 45 days. If you miss a day start again at day one of the cycle.)

In an emergency (eg. someone starts to act threateningly towards you), you can close your heart and solar plexus chakras by saying to yourself:
"Protection, protection, protection, close."

Hope you find this helpful!

In love and light,
Debbie

Insights like these (about what fat means in various places on the body) can be useful as something to look at and ask, Does that resonate for me? But you have to be careful about taking these sorts of pronouncements as absolute truths. I'm more familiar with the Louise Hay stuff, and I've found some of it to be illuminating and some of it had nothing to do with my personal "body iconology."

Zen - I've gotta say that, likewise, looking at my own experience, I've seen plenty of exceptions to your rules! (Though I will say that on the basis of my own weight, I DO seem to qualify as one of the better healers of our times...)

A big cause of excess weight is simply chronic stress. Donna Eden talks about this, and the importance of sedating the Triple Warmer meridian and strengthening Spleen meridian to break this pattern. (See her book "Energy Medicine" for various self-help ways to do this.)

And re: grounding and self-protection - don't forget Q-T!

I have been gnawing on this since I read this thread. Part of me says hmmm that makes sense, and the other part of me says no way. Until I remember what sent me on my spiraling weight gain.

I don't know if you all remember a healing request by Jen K for Baby Keyona that was on the board for a long while. I fell in love with that little baby. Her energy was the sweetest I ever felt and I actually felt hugs from her after our treatments. She was on an upturn from tumors and took a sudden change and passed on. It smacked me so hard, that I lost my footing for a while. Throughout the time I ballooned and my weight hit the highest I have ever been. I even had to back away and get my barings again.

So, yes it is definitely possible to gain weight as a empath, and yes I have had to protect myself so much better.

What I learned at least for me, is that life has many facets. Simple but true. And that I still want and need to be closely connected with my clients but with a thin veil of protection.

Good news, I've started loosing weight with a concentrated effort (very concentrated), and I'm more determined than ever.

I still think about baby Keyona now and again, now with more of a peace in my heart.

Blessings, grace and love

Hello Mhari, so good to hear what youhave to say!

Most of us empaths have through the centuries have needed the extra weight to protect ourselves, or so goes the theory.

If extra weight equals power of empath, damm Im good!

Alain came up with a good one that seems to work:
Before any empath opens and works, she/he attends to her/his self first by placing a shield over the stomach area, then placing a lock on the freezer and refrigerator. I have found personally that chewing through the locks is just not worth the chocolate, after a heavy session.
More seriously, ground and protect yourself sothat the healers emotions don't send you reeling.

I havethe same problem you do. Look up Alain Herriots' posts, its inthere somewhere.

When you find it, will you send me a copy too?

I just loatheit when the escalator expires under me. Can I blame it thekidnext to me who dropped the gum in the works? I hope?

Please, when you find it, send to my PM?
zeneagle

Ahhh, Baby Keyona....Never will I forget her! The Chatters too, did daily sessions for such a long time. Hearing her name here gives me such a feeling of warmth and peace. What a sweet Spirit.

Hi there,

I’ve been interested in the topic so I tried to find some explanations for that. It seems that body fat:
1. Holds and carry vibrations much better than ordinary muscles, which mean that it is a lot easier to maintain vibration for a long time, or a lot of work. Something similar to that sound goes further thru water than air.
2. Contains storage for some natural chemical products that are important in recovering and rebuilding organism. This is said by my friend gynecologist, who claims that if people knew the value of body fat would never–ever go to plastic surgeries to remove it.
It also seems that every emphatic person whishes to be very sensitive, to perceive and feel more with a wholehearted whish to help people, but somehow avoid to feel that they are the first people to be helped. And as it is said in previous posts those requirements must be balanced with intention to be first best for yourself, protect yourself, or allow yourself to accept all ways how our bodies are, with all the body fat.

With Love
Jelena

Hi Zeneagle

I am so sorry.......... but Be careful what you say.
This is Your perception of the truth.

I've had quite a different experience. I have met wonderful skinny healers and misarable fat ones.

quote:

The skinny seers, empaths, witches, healers, are those that are either false, or not long working in the business end of our calling.
A very good white witch will carry a great deal of emotional weight. A black witch will most usually be underweight.

Bless you,
Pinky

Good call, Pinky! Changing our perception of ourselves is what it really is about. I too, have added poundage over time. Accepting the crone years and all the trappings is not an easy task in our world today. It is about self love - digging into the deepest part of ourselves and loving the warts and all. Healers (and I mean, really, facilitators) ARE empathetic - other wise we wouldn't do it. We want to help others but we often put ourselves last. I know I try to protect myself by subconciously adding weight (armor). But there are a lot of just plan stupid things I do knowingly that has nothing to do with empathy, facilitating or whatever. Not all - so I do not discount what we call "healers gain" (LOL). All of the comments resonate with a part of me. None of the comments resonate with other parts of me. It is a complex issue - there are many heavy people that are not empathetic or healers. And there are many marvelous skinny healers (Drat!) The most difficult part of our journey is self love and self acceptance. In our hurried/stressed state, we don't tune in to that deeper part of self. Have I accomplished this? Oh, well, maybe for a nanosecond - we all struggle with this. It comes in baby steps. As I accept just a little bit more, a little bit more melts away. When I was afraid of being 'fat', I was fat. When I accepted myself for the inner person (and as I said it was not complete and was a hard road) the process began to reverse.

It is said that with QT we raise our vibration high enough that we don't take on the bad ju-ju. I still like to protect and ground myself - a holdover from pre-QT training. It is a concious step, and a bit of a habit, that is important to me and not all may resonate to that. I think that raising my vibration to it's highest level does, in and of itself, create a protection, but I also find that if I don't ground and protect myself, I can be scattered and when that happens, I can be a sponge for the nasties. So it all goes back to concious intent, what you resonate with and loving yourself - really, on your deepest level...

Sorry - I've been away from the Board for a bit and I'm being very long winded. Thank you all for your indulgence.

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Just a little insight here,

I think everyones opinion comes from how they perceive it. those that gain weight are the good ones carrying the burdons of others and not letting go of them after their work. causing weight gain to protect themselves from the pain etc...

also the thin ones are the good ones that can let go of the work when finished. and also work on their own needs.

some of us feel naked when we dont carry someone elses burdons we feel we are helping them carry the burdon. when in accuallity we may be covering up our own, by hiding behind someone elses.

just a thought that came to me as I was reading, maybe an insight to my own perceptions.

Hello all you wonderful healers!

Nice reading here, stuff to ponder, I had never thought of weight in this way before. However, I began putting on weight back in 1995 at age 42, the dreaded age weight.

Since learning QT, I've gained a little and lost a little here and there with no noticeable change; the clothes always fit, and I feel about the same. However, this summer there has been a big shift and I have gained some weight rapidly for no known reason.

Then I remembered that I saw a whole bunch of pictures of myself from a horse camping wilderness trip in July and at that time my weight was down and I was feeling perky. But the pictures showed a little tubbo on a horse and I was amazed and embarrassed. In just 3 months I've gained weight again, and not just a little, it's getting serious. Hummm.

Today I had an insight that really rocked me. My body is letting me know just what a powerful manifester I am! I was feeling slim and trim and that's what I saw (until the photos) and then I was feeling fat and tubby and that's what I manifested. Wow! It makes me laugh out loud in gratitude at this wonderful lesson, my body is a great teacher for me right now!

I don't think the weight has anything to do with the energy work or being an empath unless I look at all the hours I sit in the evenings happily running energy and not moving much.... But even that hasn't made me gain the weight since all these years it's only been slowly gain a few and then slowly loose a few. Until now.

So there, a new viewpoint from which to bless our body intelligence and gain clarity on what's really going on with the illusion.

Happy manifesting ... LOL~

PROTECTION
I think intention is the most powerful protector we can utilize. I have a friend who is very sensitive to energy. She felt an entity of evil invade her body and she couldn't get rid of it. She asked for my help. I had a moment's hesitation, wondering if it would take me over. Then I said, "NO." Nothing evil or bad can happen to me in this work. This work is LOVE. I jumped in and with love I sucked out the evil entity entering the hand I had placed on her, exiting through the other hand I held over Mother Earth.

Up to this point, I had taken on cold or flu symptoms even talking to someone on the phone who was sick. This was a turning point for me. Since 1996 or so, I no longer needed to set up any protection when I start working on someone. The protection is there permanently........ by intention!

BODY WEIGHT
I agree with so much that has been said, and very well said. I am also of the opinion that weight and healing are completely separate. I have known so many people over these last years, since 1995 when I really started working with energies. Some have been thin as rails, some chunky like me LOL. There has never been any correlation to weight, as I think over the many wonderful healers I know. The most evil person I met along the path was chunky and one of my best teachers was very thin. I would bet there is an enhancement from each body style, in both worlds.

We practitioners are so diverse and adaptable, our best foot naturally goes forward. As we begin this work, this path, I believe we naturally utilize what we innately have built in for tools in our work....... our body adapts with what is available and develops with use to enhance the love we share through this work. Our hearts are the core. In my opinion it is not the house our souls reside in, but LOVE that is the essence which makes us a good practitioner and/or empath.

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