Blessings, love and good health to all for the New Year!

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I think 10 minutes to gather is more reasonable. People's clocks are off by so much.

OR

Determine that the thing begins promptly on the hour and that everyone should arrive a few minutes early to say hello and give everyone a chance to arrive. Arriving after the hour? No greetings!

Maybe appoint a doorkeeper to whisper to late arrivals regarding status, subject, methods, etc.

Jana;

You have obviously put a lot of thought, time and effort into creating these guidelines. I applaud you. Thank you for stepping up to the plate and getting this started.

Cris - great suggestions!

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Arriving after the hour? No greetings!

Maybe appoint a doorkeeper to whisper to late arrivals regarding status, subject, methods, etc.

AWESOME, Cris!!! A doorkeeper! What a great idea! Whisper!!! I love it!

It has long been a request that persons entering the chat room take a few moments to WAIT and see if a meditation is in progress before bursting forth with greetings. It's just courtesy, not barging into a conversation anyplace, till you have a feeling for whether it is OK to speak or if someone else has the floor at the moment.

Since we aren't doing many meditations now in the chat room, that has fallen by the wayside, but it's still the courteous thing to do. Enter--->Pause--->Make greetings when you sense it is a good time, or if someone has greeted you on entry.

You would do the same to co-workers around the wter cooler, yes? The doorkeeper idea could actually work, LOL! I like it.

my only concern is that by saying the first person leads, no one will come in.
thank you for starting this discussion and I look forward to being a part of the meditations. My concern is that most of the time during the day I am at work so leading is not really a safe option for me.

Blessings,
Tami

Tami - I know it's a problem - do you have any ideas on how to allow for different (rotating)leadership? It was suggested to me that maybe someone could volunteer for the week or month. It is unfair to throw it on one person. It is my impression that the healing circle in the past kind of died from lack of SHARED leadership. I realize you are at work and so are others - but to expect one or two people to assume the responsibiity all the time isn't fair. I am hoping that there will be a number of volunteers. I am not in charge of deciding about this - I am throwing out options to make people think! I have thrown myself to the lions so we shall see......

Well I have to chime in here at this point. I agree with Tami! I for one haven't wanted to go to the Healing chat just because I don't want to be first in line to have to lead in meditation. I feel there is too much pressure being put on for this chat and there need not be any. Why can't people just meet with the intentions of sending healing without leading a meditation unless one is inspired to do so? I know I love the meditations and I am grateful when one steps up and leads a meditation. Why can't we go in there with our lists and maybe just send as a group, maybe even silently if it happens to be that way?

Jana, may I join you in the lions pit? Poor ali got stuck, did beautifully and just pooped out of ideas, as would any person.

I will take a SHARE of leading, but will NOT do it steadily as my job,as Tami's, is so time restricted.

I agree with you Jana.
I too want a healing circle, and am willing to work to get it.
zeneagle

I haven't said anything until now because if it's like the other chats it usually conflicts with my work and I wouldn't be too involved.
But if I was to partake when I could, I like Jaybean's idea. Well I also appreciate the ones put out by Cris, Ali, Tami and well Jana, you were inspired and in turn are an inspration.
I was wondering if the room could be set up with a clock and that way it would easily be seen by all and folks would know that it starts and ends PRECISELY on time.
Just one more thing to keep in mind: Keep it Simple Sweetheart.
The less rules, the better. We don't want to intimidate people from joining because they might use the wrong ink color or not join because they can't make it until halfway into it but by then they're too late to submit their request.
Having said that -
Once the guidelines have been agreed on is it possible to post them in the room also (maybe by the clock - could be at the very top/bottom/side of the page?), so that some one coming in would KNOW rather than wonder what the protocol is/are? OR, is it possible to have an intro page... oo, this is good.
So, I click on the healing chat room and before it takes me there, it takes be to a room that has the suggested guielines. If someone knows them they can just go on and click right in. But someone new to the room or who hasn't been in a while and needs to refresh,can take their time reading and assimilating for as long as they need before entering.
Christina

One of the joys of the "old" meditations was that they were fun and spontaneous. Someone needs, we did. Just that quick and just that simple. Just START--make it up & see where it takes you! I tried to keep the meditations short, to the point, not rambling, in short, the KISS technique.

The other thing to keep in mind is : What is the purpose/goal for any given meditation? If it for healing of anyone, then the idea is to raise the vibration, not put the people to sleep with deep breath...reeeelaxxxx....loose muscles.....Then it gets long and boring. And it is hard to relax into bliss when you have to read the words on the screen. On-screen exercises work best when people are alert to read them, as they usually are when raising the vibration. Keep the meditation short and know if it is for healing or for relaxation and bliss...the approach is entirely different.

Now the spontaneity seems to have gone out the window, and if a need arises in the chat room which it often does, people want to leave and move over to the other room. The spontaneous thing just....dies. The result so far is that there have been no meditations in any of the rooms.

I still don't see the need for a meditation room when the other chat sits empty for 20 hours a day. I still like the spontaneous-ness of just going for it when a need arises in chat. Someone says "X" or they themselves, need a healing and could we just send now, and it happens. That's the way QT should be, fun, spontaneous, instant, light-hearted. Begin, follow the pain, see where it goes, have fun!

I guess I am just an old fogey, but the child-like aspects of the spontaneous meditations was such fun and now it seems lost. I am reluctant to be spontaneous now in the chat, because it's not in the "right" room. Political correctness gone mad. Makes me want to weep.

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I'm with you Ali. I've been a little overwhelmed at all the rules. BUT maybe the guidelines are good for rooms dedicated to meditation. I'm of the opinion that the original room should be utilized as it's been utilized, let it evolve as it will. I like the healing cirle at the appointed times and have missed the focus on healing. I thoroughly enjoy the chat that it's turned into but miss the brief meditations. Everything evolves....

I don't think anyone should feel inhibited from mentioning a healing request in the original chat room. That's what we all are -- QT beginners, practitioners, and instructors. It's part of who we are. Let's just go with the flow there -- and mind the guidelines in the meditation room. ???

PS: I'm in the Keep It Simple Sweetheart club.

Christina, a person entering the chat room does not see any of the chat that was on the screen prior to their arrival, so posting a clock or any guidelines at the top of the chat would only be seen by persons who were in the room at the time of the entry. That was the reason we had asked persons entering the room to pause...just see if someone has the floor, or if some healing work is in progress, before blasting out with a greeting.

Like walking up to any group of people engaged in conversation, you wait before barging in to the conversation, or at least I was taught that that is polite behavior. That is a simple thing to do...just pause for a few seconds.

So posting guidelines at the top of the page will be missed by anyone who comes in even one second later. FYI.

I may be way off base, but why can't we use the healing room for send engery and healing and continue to do the meditations the way we did , back in the day, in the basic chat room.....? I need to focus when I send and can't chew gum and walk at the same time.

Guidelines are fine for a dedicated healing room, for scheduled meditations, but what I am seeing in the chat room is that when any thought of doing a brief distant "send" to someone comes up, some people flee like it was some form of the plague and go to the other room. Like no healing work is allowed in the chat room any more. That is just ridiculous. It is inevitable that in chat, people request that some healing energy be sent to themselves or someone else...are we then all to abandon the chat room and go en masse to the other room and then continue what we were doing in the first place? We ARE QTers, and how can you separate chat from healing, when that's what we do, healing work? The bonding and social chat that takes place within our Fambly IS HEALING. It is ironic that at least one person who leaves does not even do QT, and doesn't want to lead meditations either.

I am thinking seriously about abandoning chat. It used to be fun & pleasant, & some really good work was done there. Now we have to move somewhere else to do healing work.

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