I will add my two cents about the nature of a relationship and drugs/alcohol.
It really doesn't enhance, it numbs.

And as for:
"it is one of the most important and out of the outcome of the sex life, the couples relationship will evolve. In other words, if the couple's sex life is poor, they will slowly begin to have a poor relationship. If their sexual life is great, so will their relationship be. (This is talking not about the types of relationship that is based on sex, but a relationship where they love each other and have similar interests and mentality.)"
Oh Rebecca, don't believe it for an instant. It just "ain't so".

In addition to the wise words that came before me here I would just re-emphasize - be true to yourself . . . you are the only one who will be living with you your whole life from birth to rebirth. Not your parents, not Farid not any other. Just you. So it's important that you be comfortable in your own skin. And you do this by remaining true to your own self.
Listen to that inner voice. Feel what's in your gut.
We're here for you.
Enjoy the journey.
Christina

Oh, Christna, thank you for such a lovely response! Your two cents are worth more than 2 cents, believe me. And yes, the journey is just as important as the outcome.

Jana!!!! I read what you wrote and I loved it sooo much!! And I read it out-loud to Farid, and he loved it as well and said you really know and say it so well.
I am so glad for such lovely input... He he...

Hm... regarding drugs and alcohol, Farid had mentioned that when he smokes kush, there is an energy that... I dunno, awakens him a bit and he.. becomes so turned on, I suppose? I remember telling him when he exclaimed that the kush worked so well, and then I said, that no, it wasn't the kush, but it was us together, and he agreed, although... I believe he still feels kush can add a nice effect..? For me... I really am without an opinion, because, well.. I am just a novice in both sex and drugs. I am not into drugs either as I feel I have a natural high that drugs.. perhaps cannot touch.
As a side story, when I was living in Taiwan with three roomates who were all at least 15 years older than I, we used to hang out, play music, and chat. They would all be drinking and doing some sort of drugs, and me, practically a kid in the midts of htem even though "I was over 18, never joined in the intake of drugs or alcohol. But, the funny thing is, I would be sometimes hysterical with funny stuff or so full of energy from the music we made, or played, or the good company of friends. Sometimes they would look at me as I giggle and dance around the room and they would say, "I am on weed, Philip is on hash, Mark is drunk, BEcki, what are YOU on?" And I would be completely substance free. So, other than a couple puffs here and there in Taiwan which had no effect, smoking drugs is a new thing and I still believe that it isn't a necessary enhancer. Hmm... It is sooo nice to receive such replies! You know... I was worried a little that someone would judge Farid about what he is introducing to me (drugs) or someone would warn me away from stuff in a way that.. may have taken away my experience, but I feel the 3 responses I have gotten so far are sooo lovely and such perfect replies to something that at this chapter in my life is so important.
Much gratitute flows to you.
Love Rebecca

"That's really all I have to contribute at the moment, but I do want to add, Rebecca, that I feel it an honour that you have shared this information with me. "

Jo! It sure is a two way street on that subject! I also am honoured you replied and with such nice comments and a personal experience.

Thank you!
And, we do run energy into each other and it is really a nice way to begin or end or do in the middle of love making.

Ooh... learning is glorious

Love Rebecca

Ashley! Before I reply directly to you, I wanted to say how I think it is so cute that you all ask me to take the precautions when it comes to creation. That is really such a neat thing.. And.. I am blessed with someone who is experienced in following these precautions..
I am also glad what each of you have said about "enhancement" substances.
I also am feelings mm.. well, he he, special that you guys feel special that I am sharing with you my most intimate feelings and experiences... You see.. I didn't want to speak with my mother about it yet. She and I had healed and our relationship is such a good one that there is a great deal of mutual respect. She knows I am an adult and will make my own opinions and choices, but she will also tell me her concerns and then leave it be at that. My father is my most closest person in the world and he happens to live in the Philippines and has for the last 2 years. I miss him to bits and we email at least twice/week, but I haven't yet told him I lost my virginity. This is interesting, and I haven't thought about it till now, but ever since I was a wee girl, right through all my teen years, whenever something happened in respects to everything, and I mean everything, he was the first one to know. SO, we have always had a strong and healthy relationship. Well.. I think that the fact that I haven'ty felt the need to tell him mm.. says that I am growing up and my life choices are alll mine now, and... even my father's opinion and advice and undrestanding and comfort or whatever, isn't needed for me to feel secure. And this is what he would like, as well. I will tell him eventually when the time is right, but it isn't like I have a ... need to consult my dearest father. Okay! I will end this here, and will write later.
Again, Ashley, it is so nice to have a big sister who is so full of wisdom and natural understanding like you.

Rebecca

Dear Mhari! (Or is it Sekon? Sorry )

I really like how you picked up on.. the statement... Mm... I really think the "when you have doubts, listen to you heart" is so true and... I remember during a period of time when I gave myself away (tried to please all people I came in contact with) to people who didn't deserve it, it was hard on me, and then I vowed that I would listen to my heart thereon after...M..
Thanks for your input! REceived well.

Rebecca