I have no idea if QT is effective for non-physical problems like emotions, but since everything is energy is some form or another I will assume that it might help.

My wife and I are a hair's breadth away from getting a divorce. I've been doing everything I can to work on things and save our marriage but I think she's got some problems (like depression, for which she's being treated) that are stopping us from fixing our issues. What really sucks is that we have two kids: a four-year-old boy and a two-year-old girl. I just can't imagine my life without all three of them in it.

Despite all the problems my wife and I have had, I love her very much and I want to find a way to work things out. If you think it might help, please send energy to me and to her for both mental and emotional healing.

Many thanks,
John

Best of luck resolving this situation ((((((((((((((((((((John & family))))))))))))))))))

Thanks! My wife needs the healing energy to view things more positively and to allow the healing to take place in our relationship. I need energy and strength to deal with this. It's beginning to look more and more like we're not going to be able to fix things. If that's the case, I'm going to need some serious energy to be able to handle it.

Thanks again!

Hi John

Something i can really recommend is to watch the documentary "The SEcret" together if you have not done so already. It is a life transforming doc. Also if only you can watch it and she doesn't want to - start applying the techniques in your life straight away. What is it that you really want. Ask for it, visualise the outcome of the highest good for your children and keep doing the gratitude thing - write and thank for all the things you are grateful for in your life RIGHT NOW and what you are grateful for in your WIFE right now and you will start to attract more of the same. Do not concentrate on the word divorce = you don't want that.Concentrate n the words like "love, bonding,caring,sharing, Take all pressure off changing her - you can only change yourself. Keep sending her loving magenta energy ALL the time.Write her letters of love etc.

Good luck

(((((((((((((((John and wife and kids)))))))

Love
Wendyp

(((((((((((((((John & Family))))))))))))))))))

I noticed in both posts, you're placing hope for recovery squarely on your wife's shoulders. Can you look at your relationship with a We Are One focus and be concerned with what YOU can do differently? It's amazing how situations can heal when we put ourselves into a place of gratitude and self-evaluation.

Just the other day, I put myself into a place of gratitude for the ability to help my daughter and her boyfriend through their financial situation. My daughter got a job THE NEXT DAY and her boyfriend was promoted to full-time. We all win.

Here's to things working in a similar way for you.

I saw The Secret and I've been trying to do those things, but they don't seem to be helping. Things seem to keep getting worse. What's really frustrating is that things aren't that bad, it's just her perception of things that's bad. Unfortunately, we've had a few years of problems that we didn't deal with and I fear that those pent-up bad feelings have killed her love for me. If that's the case, I'm worried that it may not be possible to rekindle it.

I've been slacking off with applying the law of attraction for a couple of weeks. The past two days have been horrible. I haven't felt this bad since my mom told me that my dad had terminal cancer. But, I will do my best to stay focused on a positive outcome instead of focusing on all the gut-wrenching potential negative outcomes.

Thanks for your help!

quote:

I noticed in both posts, you're placing hope for recovery squarely on your wife's shoulders. Can you look at your relationship with a We Are One focus and be concerned with what YOU can do differently?

I've been the only one trying to do things differently. She has said that she wants to work things out but she doesn't really take any action that would be helpful. In fact, she's recently decided that she's going to move out for a while after Christmas. I think that would be a death blow to our marriage.

Hmm...While I was typing this response, she called me from the road and told me that she had changed her mind about leaving, but she reiterated that things are really, really bad and that we're going to need a lot of counseling, and I agree.

I also got her to admit to the real problem, that she has lost her feelings of love for me and that she doesn't think she'll ever be able to get them back. I worry about that, too, but as long as she's willing to stay and willing to work on things, there's a chance.

I just told her that her biggest problem is that she can't forgive people. That's not just with me, it's with everyone in her life. Once someone disappoints her enough, she shuts them out and never forgives them. I've disappointed her so often that she's finally shut me out. I told her that for us to make it as a family she's going to have to learn to forgive me for all the times I've hurt and disappointed her and let me start over.

I'll try to stay positive. There's always hope as long as we're physically together. I think all hope would have been lost if she'd moved forward with her plans to separate for a while.

Then again, perhaps being away from me for a while would make her realize that she still really does love me, but that would be so hard on our young kids. They just won't understand what's going on.

Okay, I'd like to amend my healing request. If anyone has the time, I would also like to request healing, prayer, good vibes, or whatever, for patience and the strength to get through this. I realize that my wife is depressed and that's what causes her to act the way she does, but it's hard for me to be patient. Since I have also suffered from depression several times in my life, you'd think I'd handle it better, but for some reason it's difficult.

I think the reason I have a hard time with it is that the depression makes every little thing into a big thing, and I get so weary from all those little things. I also get tired of seeing her be so gloomy. We're going to get her to a psychiatrist ASAP so she can get some real treatment, but any additional help would be SO appreciated.

Many thanks,
John

John

I hear your desperation but I also feel that you are still in the mode of looking to her and blaming her for the situation. As I said, you cannot change anyone but yourself and you have to earn forgiveness not demand it. You both need to enter counselling immediately with open hearts and the willingness to believe that there is a solution. However the only real healing will come from communicating with each other without the usual "I can't do this until you are ready to do that" kind of attitude. Sorry, I am sounding harsh, but I think you need an experienced marriage councellor URGENTLY if not for the sake of you two but for the sake of your young children. Also you both need to read the book "Radical FOrgiveness" which will address a lot of the issues you are both battling with. Ask her to take this journey into forgiving with you. You first have to forgive yourself for letting the situation get this far without getting help before. Your wife is desperate and the problem I am feeling is not with her. You have to provide demonstrable steps that you are prepared to take so that your wife can see this is not just a stop gap measure to get her to stay and then carry on just as before. She would not be giving the marriage a last chance if she did not love you!!!!! Believe me. You have received your wake up call - rise to the occasion. Find out why you have disappointed her so many times in the past - it you you have to work on. Remember EVERYTHING is possible as long as you believe it is. You have taken the hige step of baring your heart to us, now do it with her if you really love her.

With great hope for the future for you. I will wrap you in love both of you.

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Wendy

OK, just seen your post about the depression and that puts a bit of a different light on things. NOt completely but a little. Yes get her help urgently but don't blame everything on the depression - depression doesn't come from nowhere. Is the situation you are facing the CAUSE of her depression or the other way around - don't know. But I agree with you to cope with thta as lovingly as possible first and then tackle the REAL issues.

Love
Wendy

Wendy, I'm most definitely NOT blaming her! I have just as much responsibility for getting us to this place as she does. All I'm asking for now is help for her so she can deal with her part of it. I have taken responsibility for my part and I'm doing everything I can to work on the relationship.

I'm worried that her depression is going to frustrate any attempts to make our relationship better, so I came here to ask for healing energy for her in that regard. I am absolutely doing everything I can to be a better husband and father. However, her depression makes it hard for her to recognize and appreciate those efforts.

OK then - just wanted to be sure what you really wanted. Stay focused on that and let the universe take care of the details. We'll provide the extra healing back -up. WE are all rooting for you and her and your marriage. I will stop now and send to you and her. Can you give us her name ?

Love
Wendy

(((Neiby, wife & the kids)))

Hi,
Have you ever thought how your marriage used to be?
Here's a simple thing to do - sit down with pen and paper and list all the good things about your wife that attracted you to her in the first place. Then list all the good things about her now. Focus only on the positive.
Then say THANKYOU to the Universe and your wife for allowing you to experience all these good things and note how you feel after it.
Acknowledging and thanking create change.

Love and light
Faune

Her name is Stephanie.

Thank you!!