Last night I received a call from my 9 year old grandson. He was sick and throwing up, also had a bad headache. He sounded so scared!
This stuff is going around the schools big time right now. He was crying. His mom is a nurse and I know she was talking very good care of him. He cried, "Nanny please come over right now, please, please, I need that healing stuff you have!"

Well of course I jumped in the car and was there in about 5 minutes. It normally takes me 10 minutes to get to their house. I ran upstairs and proceeded to try to run energy. I say tried to because I wasn't sure that I was. I had trouble relaxing into it. I know I was trying to push that healing energy into him. I kept telling myself to relax and let it flow. At the same time praying for help to get that healing energy going. I ran energy for about 30 minutes, he fell fast asleep.

Geez! When you love someone so very much, how do you let go of the outcome? I would appreciate some advise here! How do you all handle this with your loved ones?

I seem to do much better with distant healing, letting it flow with ease, and get good results.

At any rate I called this morning and much to my delight, he slept all night, did not throw up again and is feeling fine this morning. I guess something good got through!

I appreciate any advise that is offered!
Light and Love to All!

I think this is the sort of thing that it's easy to give advice about when one is not in the situation, and hard to use the advice when you are in the middle of the situation. I think doing the deep rhythmic breathing of the QT was probably the best thing you could have done, and though you didn't feel all that calmed down by it consciously, as you said, it certainly seems to have worked!

I meant advice, I think I need to run energy on my spelling.

I am glad to hear your grandson is feeling better! What a fantastic Grandmother you are!

I've done massage and Reiki on my best friend, who is like my sister, and a few older friends in the hospital who are in pretty bad shape. Soon I will find myself in the situation of working on people who are actively dying. I know, despite being "careful" that I will develop attachments to people because they may remind me of an older relative or friend and then I will have to deal with the loss when they pass on. Knowing this, I can only hope that I will be able to effectively separate my intentions from the situation...giving the love and caring without getting emotionally sucked into a dangerous place where I won�t be of help to anyone, the person I am working on or myself. The fact that you realize it affects you in a certain way is the beginning to understanding and since you had such wonderful results, perhaps the next time will not produce a feeling of uncertainty. Familiarity usually brings about confidence and perhaps you just need to do more one on one sessions instead of distant healing to become more confident and less stressed.

Airmid,
Excellent reply. I have had the experience that Deanna describes, and it aint easy.
One of the horses I care for, Dan, is a 32 year old Percheron, a massive baby who must be put down soon. Dan wants me to be there, is quite aware of whats coming, and is welcoming the releif. I on the other hand, will probably drown him with tears. Dan's body, even though emaciated with age, weighs about 2200 pounds. He is huge, but he wants me to hold his head as he goes. Which I will do for him, the very least I can do for a friend. I know that I can not help him further, but that does not make it easier for me. Dan is looking forward to being relieved of all his pain! What courage it takes to be an animal...I am tearing up now, gotta go.
zeneagle

Gosh Zen, my heart goes out to you!
Hang in there.....
Deanna

Sweetie...I was there when my best friends Mum (my adopted Mum) passed over...I have to tell you...it is the most beautiful thing I have ever been a part of...and maybe that won't sound right to some...

It was in December...the family brought her home, set up the Christmas tree...I kept music (mostly New Age/Celtic/Yule) going. My best friend (Carolyn) her older sister (Marcia) and I were sitting in the living room. I am mostly deaf in my left ear but at one point I saw Carolyn and Marcia looking at each other and then around the room. They both asked each other and me.."Did you hear that?" and I said "No...you know I can't hear out of this ear...what?" and they had both heard a whisper saying "It's time to go!". About an hour later...Mom passed over....The whole family was there watching...but it wasn't in horror...it was a beautiful thing...it was a joyful thing.....I changed the CD to a certain Ren. Faire song that my friend and I enjoy...a sailing song "The Road to Mingulay"

http://chivalry.com/cantaria/lyrics/mingulay.htm

Heel yo ho, boys; let her go, boys;
Bring her head round, into the weather,
Hill you ho, boys, let her go, boys
Sailing homeward to Mingulay

It was just the phrase "Let her go, boys" and the tune that spoke the moment...It was "time to go".

There is a saying:

When you were born you cried and the world rejoiced
Live your life so that when you die, you rejoice and the world cries.

I can think of no greater gift to anyone or anything than to let them know..."It's okay...it's time to go..."

We mostly grieve for ourselves...not those who have passed on...they are in a wonderful place, and our place here has been made a bit...dour by their passing...but the memories they have given us can never be taken unless we give them away...

I only got caught once. My 20mth son had a temp. of 102F. I gave him a healing (not OT). Next morning I was bugged out. My wife said, "Thats strange, John was sick last night and hes now playing outside and your in bed crook!"
I knew immdiately what had happened. I got hooked on "healing someone you love!":
In the video, Richard says, something like, "Don't be attached to results!" Thats not your job. Your job is to run energy!
Huggs

I did a healing session on my mum recently, and noticed I was much less focussed than I normally am, because of all the extra anxiety (wanting to help her, wanting her to think well of me etc!) I think just relaxing is the best thing we can ever do, and the thoughts about outcome etc are forms of anxiety so relaxing will sort them out, too!

Learning to feel only love, rather than a mixture of love, concern, anxiety etc is, I think, the most important challenge. Pure love is detached from conscious desire, in my opinion, but encompasses meaning for everyone involved; the energy of Love is what restores balance and brings about resolution and healing to bodies, minds, hearts, and situations. Love expands, and by continually relaxing and being aware of our physical bodies (where tension is experienced) we can fend off the tendencies of fear to restrict the flow of QT or any other healing energy. Really concentrating on the physical sensations in the sweep seems the perfect way to do it during a QT session, and chanelling the desire to help into a determination to feel that very strongly might be useful! I'm still a bit wobbly with this myself and have to remind myself to concentrate on the physical awareness more, and to indulge my thoughts less.

Thank you all for your suggestions, I really appreciate all of them. If there is a next time, I wish all my loved ones to be well, I will try to just concentrate on the sweep and pulling that energy, I think that will help to keep me focused.
Have a great weekend everyone!
Deanna

Deanna, there is no question that healing people who are closer to you and that you love requires something more for the release of anciety and the the need to succeed. With people we don't know it is just so much easier to let go.

I have found that the technique that Alain talks about on his dvd is helpful, something he calls "getting into the heart space" i think. I drop into my heart and then it feels as if the energy is coming straight from there, even tho i still have tingling in my hands ... and i can feel a tremendous love, but somehow it is a very relaced feeling. At these times i can get light coming in from above and feel that it really isn't in my hands.

If you haven't yet tried the "getting into the heart place" you might try that and see if it helps with healing those you love.

Smiles, Susie

Thank you Susie, I will try that.

Hi Deanna,

I don't know how long you have been using QT, but since I've been working with it for approximately three years now the amazing successes that I've had are what calm me. Each time I work with QT (and I do it in some pretty stressful places, like expos and such) I find that no matter what the circumstances the people I work on receive some level of relief. Knowing that helps me to be able to relax and just run the energy. I also try to remember that the energy is very powerful and there to do good.

You might try breathing very deeply, giving big sighs as you exhale and then bring to mind a recent success you have had working on someone else. That may help you release the anxiety that it might not work this time and be able to move into a more open heart space to run the energy more effectively.

When working on someone that is in a life and death situation I also remember the stories I've heard about how peacefully people pass over when they have experienced QT, so that helps as well. If I can't help the person or animal recover I can be of great service helping them to feel calm, painfree and open to the next step.

Hi Debra,
What I am posting here is slightly off the current topic, but I really like your idea of doing the sighing when exhaling. What I experienced with it is better than having just the thought to relax. However, I found I could put even more kick to the sensation / energy by doing the "sigh with relief". I can feel the emotion behind this as with the "What you love most" technique. (I wonder if it is just me?). Can doing this not help to put a positive slant on the result of a session?
Thanks for the tip.
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SKay