Hi yawl,

I consider myself an expert in fear as I've been deeply ingrained in all kinds of fears for years. Because of my empathic nature I can also pick up other's fears like a sponge. With me almost all of them manifest in my neck and the back of my head and can remain stuck there, causing alot of distress within me. What's helping me lately is using the Core techinique to focus high love & light energy in that area. I womb the area with a field of the highest potential and then place the 12 color womb within that field. Yesterday it was particularly powerful as I imagined the whole of the back of my neck and head light up by this field.

Does anybody else have anything to share about healing fear?

Does fear of healer's count?

This is one of my newest fears. I feel like I'm in the dentist's waiting room while on this site.

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This is one of my newest fears. I feel like I'm in the dentist's waiting room while on this site.

Hmmmm.... Is your mouse possessed? Last time I checked I was in control of what sites I visited and I sure as hell wouldn't go to one that made me feel like I was at the dentist's office.

LMAO!!!!!!

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Hmmmm.... Is your mouse possessed? Last time I checked I was in control of what sites I visited and I sure as hell wouldn't go to one that made me feel like I was at the dentist's office.
Is your mouse possessed? Dragonfly this is very funny.
LMAO!!!!!!

What does LMAO mean !!!!!! ?

Pinky

Just a note on Boudewijns Healing Fear post, He is doing a walk about somewhere in Asia that's all I know but I presume he is doing fine. The last time I spoke to him 3 weeks ago, he was about to go deap sea diving, a great passion of him.

Pinky, bless you, you always make me smile!

"LMAO" means "laughing my ass/arse off".

Also, as extension of this, ROFLMAO is the above with the prefix "rolling on floor..."

Wow - if my dentist's waiting room felt as loving and supportive as the people on this site are, I'd be down there every day!

Well...........
I've been struggling with this all my life so I'm another expert!
After all those years, I'm beggining to come to terms that we don't heal fear; we become stronger than the fear.
Right now I'm reading a book which was dormant on the book shelf eyeing me silently.
This is 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' by Susan Jeffers. It is as if she is talking to me.
.........and here's a quote from Eckhart Tolle;
Is fear preventing you from taking action?
Acknowledge the fear, watch it, take your attention into it, be fully present with it.
Doing so cuts the link between the fear and your thinking.
Pondering on this, most fear is fed by our thoughts not by facts

Hey Bo and Nicky,
Besides QT for fear I would definitely use two other tools: EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique - emofree.com, or another method like it, like emotrance...) AND attending a FIREWALK.]

There are no "fears" - plural. There is only ONE "fear' but it is triggered by different things...public speaking, commitment, heights...

In my opinion, conscious breathing helps almost any negative emotion, including fear or panic attacks.
Pick a pattern of breathing, let's say 4-4-4. Breathe in to the count of four, hold for four and then exhale to four. You can try different numbers, whatever works for you.
The point is, as long as you are focused on the breathing you will not be experiencing fear.
Hope these things help.
Christina

The Habit of Fear:

Our two primary emotions are love and fear. Its hard to believe but....everything falls into that catagory. Both are selected by our inate ability to choose. Yet it is also not surprising that when we fear we must accept, we have chosen to do so. The real question is why?
Oh yes! There are causes that justify fear and it becomes necessary to engage for self preservation. This is known as the "Fight or Flight syndrom" Just the same this state is a demonstration of self love. But this post is about the chronic condition of living in a state fear.
Something to ponder....ANGER is the child of fear! Is there something you are angry at?

For those who choose to fear they are usually fearful of the majority of all life's aspects. Fear becomes a way of life and BAD HABIT!{EFT: "Even though I have this habit to fear, I deeply and profoundly love myself."} How do you break a habit?
It won't be until you are sick and tired of being sick and tired of living in a state of fear that you will be able to turn it off! Positive affirmations! Imagine two toggle switches. One love and the other fear. "Today I choose to turn off my fear switch and live my life in love!" Mentally imagine doing so.
Now that you have done the two exercises and have mentally disengaged from the emotional tags consider exploring what caused you to choose fear and habitualize it? Following are some major causes.
It was a model: A parent figure or significant person in authoritive, (during your formative years), used fear for discipline or attention!

Attention!: Not going to go deep into this one but....hmmm! No way to say it but lay it out there. Nothing like fear to capture an audience. This being the very reason scary movies are so popular. Emotionally needy people often use fear as a manipulation tactic to gain attention or change actions from significant others. OUCH!

Reworking old drama: When something happens to us and the results have left us with unsatisfactory outcomes, we subconsciously pattern our behavior and life to return to the old drama for a better resolution. Like a remake of an old movie---we select the actors to fill the role of the drama for the re-creation. Who are these actors? Look around you and see who is in your life. For most this can be very scary...but to resolve we must own the event as being a re-creation done by ourself. Forgive the wounds experienced throughout the relationship. After all! That person was selected by you to play a part in an old drama----with the intent of this time being the victor---and they have done a marvelous job!
Resolution: Count your past as a low budget and amature cast film and provide sevrence pay to those that you can. For permenant fixtures (spouse and children)write a new and positive script. Its amazing when you see others in a new light how they become what you cast them as. Warning! Some, (spouse/SO's ) may be so engrained in their old role that they can't/won't change and opt to leave. In this case again own the event! They have played their part and let them go with love and dignity. In the long run they have saved you the emotional severence pay. They too have their own drama to workout! Your former drama matched their's or they never would have accepted the position. Do not blame yourself for their departure! Honor the experience by acknowledging that the relationship was meant to bring you to a higher emotional ground....and it has! This is a cause for celebration. A release from the past; new adventures; desires; and hope, peace, and joy.
Visualization tool: See yourself on a beach. Look behind you and see your footprints in the sand. Observe the tide as it washes away the prints. Say, "My past has no power over me. I am empowered by the moment and the day."

Emotional fear Junky: This is a very sensitive subject. These people are often seen as heros. These are those that are in a certain percentage of wannabe and actual EMS workers. This percentage live their life on the edge to feel the fear for the purpose of feeling alive. Not all EMS workers fit this catagory and wont provide the stats that do. And don't be too critical! Working 48hr on 48hrs off (which many times turns into 72 hrs on)and dealing with what they deal with into the mix of sleep deprevation, etc. etc. in time brings almost everyone to a state of emotional numbness. But! What about the average Joe-smo> Fear junkies are created by those whose life is absent of living life to its fullest. Passion for life is lacking. It is an unsatisfied life. Fear then becomes a poor antidote to feel alive!
Resolution: Choose to live your life in love by---living life. Play, laugh, seek peace and joy. Become involved and develop true passion in your life.

Make the choice and move toward the light in all that you do, think, and say.

M.

By the way! You'll be surprised when you arrive at the state of taking control over the general element of fear how phobias collapse.

M

Hi, to all on this thread...wow (omg) what a relevant topic and from the meager beginnnings of the dentist comment, and what great responses/advice. I think that anger CAN be the child of fear, but so too can be anxiety and depression. Confronting fear is the only way to overcome, if one can, but this requires a helper, I think. Anger might be the fuel for the (helpful) confrontation (of the fear), don't you think (?). The love and the humility that QT method projects, fosters and draws from oneself can be very powerful and helpful toward how one might address one's fears.

Willingsand,
You are exactly right! I really like your definition of anger, (it is the fuel of fear). Borrowing from my niece from England, your post is "spot on!"


M

Very well stated Boogaloo. I don't want to get into affirmations v.s. afformations, but something I have used for years that helps still the fear is a little affirmation taught to me. You can use it for any emotion just replace the fear with anger or another emotion and the three strength words with some that are appropriate to changing that emotion.

Fear is present.
I am NOT the fear.
I am the divine Light of love, strength and courage.

Repeat this to yourself, or out loud, if possible, until you feel the fear drain away. Now try the sweeping and breathing.......

I've just heard a very clear explanation of fear and how to banish it called 'The Silent Language of Peace' by Heather Macauley. Not sure where I got it from but it's well worth listening to! There's a lovely toning meditation at the end, too.

My own method is to substitute love; whether as a feeling (appreciation, gratitude etc.) or as a belief in love as the true reality. Heather suggests asking to see love in any situation that's causing fear - i.e not fighting it but having the intention to see the love that's present everywhere, in everything.

I think healing fear is the ultimate challenge of human existence and the way to freedom. And I think it's always a choice, and giving up fear isn't that easy!

Hi, Creativejani2..any reference how to obtain "The Silent Language of Peace" (tape, CD) ? Thanks,

Willingsand

This was created through noticing yesterday from close by how one fear feeds an others fear, resulting in anger, misunderstanding and more fear.

My thoughts about fear.

PERCEIVING
Fear excists through lack of Perception.
A Lack of trust in your own true self.
Giving in, you give your true Self away.
Fear is an emotion,
experienced by us,
.......................
Through manipulation,Through false gods,
Through feelings, Through words(conditioning) and behaviour.
For if we could choose, would we choose fear?
I guess not.

I think
Fear is THE way of control over us.
By whom?
We will know by Perceiving.

Ground yourself,
Be quiet,
and Perceive.
we will see what is true or false.
See yourself from the outside in,
Go through the looking glass,
and we will Perceive,
we are perfect already.
For ..........
Our Self knows no fear.

Be Weird, Wild and Wonderful
Pinky

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